One of the key words in this Miso jungle is “REPETITION!”
Have you ever tried to pay attention to all of the repetitions that are happening around your Miso? I won’t write about constant eating sounds/movements and breathing sounds. They are the most common triggers but they’re so repetitive and constant that it really doesn’t make any sense to analyze them this way.
Repetitive movements, gesticulations, micro expressions, characteristic ways of saying something…
Simple explanation. Someone in my family sometimes sneezes at least 10 times in a row. My rage will increase with the number of his sneezes. Next time after I hear him sneze two times I’ll feel more anger because I know what to expect. It’s the same with everything else. The more time I hear/see something characteristic the more I’ll be bothered with it.
The more complicated explanation and something that don’t produce that much rage, but discomfort, disturbance and an unwillingly unpleasant reaction. Music.
For most of you music is a salvation. For me, it’s a distraction and for last few years I finally admitted and gave up on it. I don’t listen to music. Maybe the closest to the truth would be “I rarely enjoy music. I would never turn on the music no matter where I am and what am I doing.” I tried numerous times because everyone enjoy music! But I just couldn’t. The moment when I catch the same tone more then let’s say 10 times and the same tone of someone’s voice (if I knew more about music I would explain this better)… when I start to recognize the style of the singer or the bend I’m done with it. I can’t enjoy because all I hear are those repetitive, distinguishing tones that are always the same, no matter that the song is different, the album is a new one etc. They all are just the same to me.
While I was growing up I was listening (more of, trying to because you supposed to do that) metal, hard rock, punk (I should find a picture of myself in that period lol). I remember when my friend brought me 5 tapes (yeah, no cd’s back then) of a band to listen all of their 5 album’s and tell him what I think. I took the tapes and was trying to not say out loud: “Are you insane? I can’t do that!” Because I really cared about him I forced myself to play it. The band was very good, the singer had a very unique voice, they were different, and lyrics were deep and different. I liked them. After the second tape I picked up their distinguishable characteristics, voice and music related and my enjoyment stopped. I kept the tapes as long as I could but I didn’t hear the fifth album (I did it much later, just not then).
Just turn on any music channel and watch a few videos of pop princesses (and don’t forget boys) let’s say (actually if you’re a Miso person, don’t do that ;)) . I promise you’ll notice their same dance moves, their “sticking tongue and licking lips”, “shaking asses this way”, movements with their hands, their same facial expressions while singing certain vowels, and so on. They pick up what they think it’s appealing and all of them do the same.
Characteristics in the way how TV anchors gesticulate and pronounce their words, the way how they’re stressing what is important or to add some drama in their story. Can’t watch/listen them. Of course there are certain differences between them but they are unnoticeable because anchors almost present/act uniformly the same.
I just can’t deal with that amount of the same pronunciation, dances, movements, gesticulations so, it’s simple, I don’t watch or listen them.
My new coworker likes to listen to music, and surprisingly I still don’t mind it. I appreciate that she asked me few times if I mind the music in the office, but I can completely shut down the music (meaning I don’t hear it) while working.
What’s interesting about music on the other hand… I enjoy live performance. A singer, a band could never repeat the same tone in their live performances. It’s not possible. Those are the same songs they play but they’re never able to repeat the way how they played last time.
I enjoy instruments when played live. I enjoy someone’s voice when they sing live.
My hb used to sing in a band. Yes he does have some distinguishable characteristics while singing but I don’t mind them if he sings live because it’s not possible to sing the same way numerous times. The differences are probably undetectable to someone with “normal” hearing, but they’re still differences and because of those tiny differences I can listen and enjoy music live.
Interesting is that people very quickly and probably unconsciously pick up movements and gesticulation seen regularly on TV or in their every day life. F.e. four women in my family make the same lips movements when saying certain things, let’s say when they’re passing some news. No one notice that except me. It’s a blessing and a curse in the same time. Another example that we all see all the time can be posing and “fish” and “duck” mouth when girls photograph themselves for social networks.
Good side, in life in general, is that together with a bit psychology knowledge you can read a person very quickly because very quickly you become aware of the distinctiveness in their body language and voice.
Bad side, in life in general, is that together with a bit psychology knowledge you can read a person very quickly because very quickly you become aware of the distinctiveness in their body language and voice, and therefore you very quickly lose interest in getting to know them better.