Comments on: Highly sensitive

By: mmaria

mmaria — Mon, 14 Apr 2014 10:06:42 +0000

Chandra,
you also explained our “situation” very well.
It seems to me that the most of “us” really think bad about themselves and by the time we grow up and start to get some information about sensitivity, and start to look at things a bit differently we actually did some harm to ourselves.
Until few months ago I looked for, intentionally, bad news in newspapers to read them first, but now, I’m avoiding these. I just simply can take it anymore. I don’t watch the news, don’t read newspaper and pretty much I’ll choose not to watch any movie if it’s sad.
And also… I was drawn to unhappy people. Partially because I was unhappy too and partially because I wanted to help them. I don’t know if this is the same for everyone or that it has some connection but I was always helping others first. I thought “I’ll be fine. They need help first.”
I spent a large portion of time and effort to change that code in me.
I really appreciate what you said about my blog. Thank you! Hope to see you around!

By: Chandra

Chandra — Fri, 11 Apr 2014 07:52:01 +0000

Wow, this is me as well! I have recently found the Misophonia connection in my life. I’ll be turning 43 shortly. It’s been a very long haul of beating myself up for being a rotten person (what I tell myself) because I can’t tolerate many everyday ordinary things. I consider myself to be hypersensitive too.

I have a problem getting images of hurt or injured people, and animals especially, out of my mind after seeing a photo/video. I can no longer read news stories of animals found lost or hurt. I have a rolling movie in my head of images that won’t go away from pictures I’ve accidentally run into on TV or on Facebook. I try desperately to avoid these.

I feel that I am overly empathetic. When speaking with someone who is feeling sad or another negative feeling, I seem to take on their pain to a deeper level than I should. I worry about them for days, weeks after speaking with them only to find out their situation has changed and they have recovered long ago. I feel like a sponge that absorbs emotions and energy from those around me. It is exhausting. I have learned that I need to separate myself before I feel depleted. I do wonder if this whole Miso thing could be related to the increase in sensitivities in other emotional areas too!

Thank you for your blog. You write exactly what I am feeling!

By: mmaria

mmaria — Tue, 04 Mar 2014 20:19:33 +0000

Sue,
then you know everything I’m talking about.
One post is not enough to explain and write everything we experience on a regular basis.
I do feel though, that my Miso is a totally separate part of me. Yes, Misophonia is an enhanced sensitivity but not in a way I experience other “highly sensitive” feelings. F.e. Misophonia’s visual stimuli is noticed/seen by the peripheral vision. My reaction on that stimuli is purely Miso reaction, I’m angry when seeing someone do repetitive movements or eats, with my peripheral vision. But when I notice/see other things/movements or details that don’t bother me, I’m still seeing them because of my developed peripheral vision but I just don’t have that specific angry reaction on them.
I hope you’ll understand what I was trying to explain.

By: mmaria

mmaria — Tue, 04 Mar 2014 19:55:45 +0000

Glad someone understand! I use an artificial gel too, artificial tears don’t help. I’m always in a search for better because every product I tried doesn’t bring me relief for free, I have experienced the side effects also, it burns, it hurts…
Thank you for commenting and suggesting “Viscotears” Alex, I’ll be searching for it!

By: Sue Henderson

Sue Henderson — Tue, 04 Mar 2014 17:40:28 +0000

It’s interesting to hear of your sensitivities to things other than noise. I certainly have that same thing. I remember as a child telling my mother there was a piece of overcooked carrot in her casserole dish and it turned out there was one just under the lid that had dried out and scorched a little from not being in the stew.

I also have great empathy, to the extent that I don’t just feel what other people do and can put it into words before they can, but that I feel what animals of other species feel. Maybe it’s one of the reasons why I’m vegan. I can feel things like the terror of the calf being dragged from his mother at a few hours or days old and I can feel the love and the fear and the grief of the mother having her calf taken from her.

I have very strong peripheral vision too and can be easily distracted both by certain movements and, when in conversation with someone amidst other people, by other conversations going on. I find both very stressful.

Rather than calling my condition misophonia I’ve started referring to it as hypersensitivity as I feel that’s more accurate. Now all we need is a treatment.

Thank you for your insightful article.

By: Alex

Alex — Tue, 04 Mar 2014 15:36:00 +0000

Re. waking with very dry eyes….I have that too, and use “Viscotears”, artificial tear gel, which helps a lot. Im in the UK so not sure if it’s the same for you.
Very interesting article….thanks!
Alex in Scotland